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Marge! Look at all this great stuff I found at the Marina. It was just sitting in some guy's boat!

So yesterday I wrote a love letter to my husband.

We had a talk on Monday night about how our romance life is going, and without divulging too many personal details, I'll just say that we need some spice in our life.

We had such a hard year in 2004 with the loss of his father and the hard work going into completing his thesis. I know that we both need to make changes to make our relationship more of a priority and when I get to carrying on about it, all I end up doing is blaming it all on him.

I realized that I was doing that, and that it was so wrong. So I wrote to him because I knew that I'd be without distraction and less likely to get annoyed by anything.

When I went to sleep he was staying up to watch The West Wing. They put it on late here because it is not one of the more popular shows. I don't like it either and I was tired.

I snuck into the bathroom and taped it where he would find it while I was asleep and be able to read it in private.

He thanked me for it this morning. It is a start. I invited him out for a date for when we have a bit more breathing room in our finances because we are a bit broke at the moment and he said that was a good idea.

So now I need romantic date ideas. I could do the dinner thing, but that is done and tired. I will have to come up with something really good, and be armed with a plan so that the night accomplishes what I'm setting out to do. Food may be involved, but just eating out is not all that intimate.

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Anonymous said…
I hear you on the getting back to romance thing. My boyfriend is a first year high school teacher and he rarely has an evening to spend with me. So once a week we have a "date" night where we discuss and decide in advance what kinds of things we would enjoy doing together for the evening. Sometimes it's nothing more than watching our fav TV show and ordering a pizza, but it's the time relaxing, laughing together, and talking that's most important. We tend to like getting dressed up nicely for our date nights and that adds a bit of extra "charge" to the evening too.

Some of the more romantic things we've done for date night are: take a hot bath together by candlelight, cook a 4 course meal together, take evening walks to the coffee shop, read (sometimes erotic) stories to each other, at home massage. We also bought some satin sheets and a fake fur blanket that we take out now and then for some extra tactile fun.

Just think of the things you most enjoyed doing together when you were first dating and go from there.

-virg
Anonymous said…
there are some great ideas there! What area of sa are you in? because I saw that there is botanical gardens cinema - maybe there and then supper and a walk on the beach? I've never been. Just a bit far from here , but I am thinking that it would be kind of nice - especially if you take a blanket and had some public "touchies feelies". Woo! Need a cold shower!
Argy said…
I am at a similar situation. I have neglected my husband lately, with all this work and madness and my mother's illness. So I was thinking about something to do to make it up to him, and also to bring myself back to the "mood". Right now I'm a bit feverish and all I can think of is "i dont wanna go to work" lol, but if I come up with something I will be back here to let you know. Actually I HAVE to come up with something, because it is only 3 days to saturday!
Denise said…
How about a picnic? A gentle, easy hike somewhere pretty followed by a nice little lunch that you put together in a pretty basket (or just a cooler).
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